I grew up in Manchester, NH, one of three children raised by a single mom. Times were tough. We didn’t have a lot of money or material possessions.
What we did have was a lot of love.
When I was 15, Mom met a wonderful guy named Jerry. They soon married and life began to take a turn for the better. Jerry quickly became a great role model for us kids. He not only helped us with our schoolwork, but he showed us how to be happy!
With Jerry’s encouragement, I became the first member of my family to go to college. I attended Plymouth State University in Plymouth, NH, and graduated with a major in Art Education.
As a student, things fell into place for me and my dreams were now within reach. I attribute it to the power of positive thinking and realized that when we’re happy, our dreams come true! It has a ripple effect.
After I graduated, I had the chance to study in Italy (the best place to experience art and the renaissance!), California, Hawaii, Massachusetts and now Madison, Wis.
Since moving to Madison in 2012, I’ve continued to fulfill my dreams of sharing art and connecting with people. In January, I hosted “Dream Boards” at American Family Insurance’s DreamBank in Madison, which encouraged people to use visualization as a tool in achieving their dreams. I’ve also become a preschool teacher using art to help children every day.
So what do I dream about today? I dream of being an artist and illustrating children’s books. I dream of helping children through art. I dream of having a healthy life and one day raising a family.
Lastly, I dream of traveling to Peru to volunteer at Sembrando Semillas con Yoga where children are taught yoga, art, sustainable farming, and how to lead a balanced and harmonious life.
I’m living proof you should never stop dreaming. Your dreams are out there. All you have to do is reach for them.
Editor’s note: This is part of a Dream Protectors blog feature called Stories From DreamBank, which showcases real-life dreams from visitors to the American Family Insurance DreamBank in Madison, Wis. Visit DreamBank on the Square or online at www.amfam.com/DreamBank.
I have been battling my weight my entire life. I have been the “fat kid” since fourth grade. I did not participate in sports or exercise. I watched from the sidelines.
Diagnosed with high cholesterol in college, I was put on cholesterol-lowering medication, and later another prescription for heartburn. I was also diagnosed with sleep apnea, as I stopped breathing an average of 38 times every hour. I had to wear a CPAP machine mask at night just to keep me alive and breathing until morning.
In March 2012 that all changed.
One night while walking our dog, I decided to jog instead of walk. I jogged at a very slow pace for about 100 yards, stopped to catch my breath, and walked for a bit. Something changed in me at that moment. A voice in my head said, “This is enough!” It was time for me to take control of my life and set a better example for my family.
Later that week my wife and I signed up for our first 5k in June 2012. After training for three months, we both finished the race. I finished two seconds under 30 minutes. This was my first time running 3.1 miles all at one time. I was hooked! That same afternoon I signed up for another race in July, this time a five-mile one. On one of the hottest days of 2012, I ran five miles in 52 minutes! Next was a 15k relay with two friends in October. I ran my leg at my personal best time. After months of training I was ready for my next challenge, a half-marathon. In Nov. 2012, I completed a 13.1-mile run in two hours and 25 minutes! This June I will run in a six-team, 200-mile relay race from Madison to Chicago, called the Ragnar Relay.
After six months of watching my diet, running and doing other exercise (and setting a better example for my children), I’ve lost 60 pounds and 23 inches. I no longer need to take cholesterol-lowering or heartburn medication. I recently had my sleep apnea problem checked and the occurrences have dropped from 31 to 1.1 per hour. A rate of occurrence for an average person is three times per hour. I will be re-evaluated in June, and I know I am on the way to never needing that CPAP machine again.
What have I gained from this experience? I gained the ability to dream again. My father passed away well before his time and never had the chance to meet my children, his grandchildren. I have made choices in my life during this past year to ensure I will continue to set a good, healthy example for my kids and live long enough to meet my grandchildren – and beyond.
All it took was making a choice between living in an unhealthy way or taking control of my life and my dreams. Today, I really live life instead of just existing.
Have you made the choice to live a healthy life? What do you do?
I recently took my family to see the movie “Lincoln.” It’s an amazing film about our 16th president, which has been nominated or already won several awards. You get an incredible glimpse into one of the most important and tragic times in our country’s history.
More importantly, the film – and the trip we took to our local theater – allowed for a welcome escape from the everyday activities of work, school, sports, church and more.
Films are themselves a very American experience, and so is the modern-day movie theatre visit. Even the very process by which we watch movies – the darkened room, the stadium seating, the oversized tub of popcorn, the giant screen – provides something we don’t normally experience in our day-to-day lives. (I’d love to eat movie-theatre popcorn every day, but my arteries wouldn’t.)
At the movies, we can live vicariously through characters of yesterday, today and tomorrow; real people or those completely ridiculous and fictional. They show us what it was like to live years or generations ago, or give us ideas for living our lives today.
I’m partial to films based on historic events, like “Lincoln”. But even if you’re a fan of romantic comedies, action flicks or science fiction films, there’s an escape from reality we can all appreciate. For a couple hours, we can put away the smart phone, get off the freeway and away from the office, and see life through the people portrayed in a good movie.
What films have provided you with a good escape lately? Join the conversation by leaving a comment below.
Editor’s note: American Family Insurance powers the 2013 Kids Dream Winter Film Series, which is now showing at participating Marcus Theatres in Iowa, Illinois, Minnesota, Ohio, Nebraska, North Dakota and Wisconsin. You can get free tickets to these family-friendly films (which run Saturday and Sunday mornings through March 17, 2013) from participating American Family Insurance agents. Otherwise, the films are just $2 per person. Visit our website for more information and to find an agent near you.
All my life, I've been a dreamer.
Childhood was a time of questions, quandaries and dreams. As one of three daughters, our parents taught us, "no dream is impossible."
Those four words are so simple, so powerful and so true.
In today's world, most of us dream. However, too many of us are afraid to pursue our dreams. The greatest dream destroyers? Fear and inactivity. How can a dream come true, without taking continual actions?
Throughout my life, I've been blessed to meet and learn from people, whose dreams have shaped the world. Elizabeth Taylor dreamed of a world without discrimination, a world free of HIV/AIDS. And Elizabeth went to work. In her lifetime, HIV/AIDS became a manageable health issue, instead of a death sentence. Today, many in the science community believe Elizabeth's dream will happen in our lifetime. The advances in treatment are affecting people all over the globe.
Steve Jobs. Walt Disney. Rosa Parks. People with powerful visions of the future changed the way we live today. Without dreamers taking action, what would happen to our world?
What are your dreams? How will you make them happen? How will you protect them?
People who dream without a plan are hopeful and filled with imagination. Sadly, imagination without implementation is a hallucination. We must grasp our dreams and meld them with passion and focused activity.
One of my first dreams was to be self-employed. At nine, my first design job was selling painted rocks from a wagon. My sister, Mary, is a gifted artist, who sold her rocks for a dime. My rocks were just a nickel. At that affordable price, customers were buying and business was successful.
Design work kept me self-employed while waiting for my next dream to come true. I wanted my own paper route. The newspaper in our community required you to be at least 11 for such responsibility. How would the dream of a paper route enhance the dream of becoming a designer? The goal was to design and market clothing accessories at craft shows on the beach, while selling newspapers to save for college. Having a design degree was an early dream.
Just after turning 11, my dad saw an ad in the newspaper that read, "newspaper carrier wanted... are you the boy for the job?." Dad knew what kind of reaction the ad would have on his daughter's dream. After writing a letter to the editor explaining how a girl could do the job as well as any boy, it worked.
The first delivery was New Year's Day. The papers were extra thick. The young girl wondered, where was her dream amidst piles of newspapers? The dream did not include grumpy customers who wouldn't pay, a sexist customer who said girls should never deliver newspapers, and a girl, doing that job, would never last.
I didn't let that man see me cry. Dad said, "If you believe in your dream, you'll under-promise and over-deliver. If your customer expects the newspaper on their driveway, put it on the front porch."
It was great advice for newspapers and great advice for making a dream come true.
Our city had its first female newspaper carrier, and she became carrier of the year for each of the years she held the route. Whenever Warren Buffet and I speak, we always share stories about our paper routes and early customers.
My college dream of a design degree was deferred by an unexpected adventure in the fashion industry. The gawky, awkward paper carrier accidentally became a model. In a way, that modeling career offered a terrific education and tremendous doses of daily rejection. "Too tall." "Terrible hair." "Too fat." "Bad skin." "One eyebrow?"
It was endless and very helpful. Rejection made me stronger, and it can do the same thing for you.
What happened to college? Well, I'm still dreaming. And while I've been dreaming, two wonderful institutions of higher education have honored me with degrees.
Today, when people tell me "no," my reaction is - at least we're talking. As CEO and Chief Designer of our design and marketing firm, kathy ireland Worldwide, we hear the word "no" every day.
Every dreamer will be told their dreams are not possible. Please don't believe that. If you think you can do something, you're probably right. If you think you can't do something, you're probably right.
So many dreamers know what needs to be done, and procrastinate about doing the very thing that will make their dreams come true. When we lack a certain skill, what are we doing to acquire it? In this internet age, social media, our laptops and cell phones are miraculous fountains of knowledge, leveling the playing field for dreamers all around the world.
Your dreams are out there. Please, go and get them.
Editor's note: American Family has teamed up with kathy ireland World Wide to inspire people to dream and help provide them with the tools to pursue and protect their dreams at the 2013 Dream Camp. The contest encourages anyone with a dream to fulfill in 2013 to share it online with fellow dreamers, add a photo or video, and drum up votes via social media and email to get nominated as one of America's top 100 dreamers.
A panel of judges, including Kathy Ireland, will select the top three dreamers from the 100 highest vote totals. Prizes include an all-expense-paid trip to Madison, Wis., March 13-16 to attend 2013 Dream Camp. The three winners will also receive $10,000 each toward their dreams.
Enter the 2013 Dream Camp contest - or vote for your favorite entries - on the American Family Insurance YouTube channel.
From the moment I heard about American Family's Dreams Protected advertising campaign, I loved it. I thought the messaging was powerful, and really represents what we do as a mutual insurance company. Your dream is out there. Go get it. We’ll protect it.
Personally though, I had a kind of mental “argh?!?” moment when we asked employees to think about their own dreams. I came up with “I want to raise my children to be happy, successful adults.” It’s true, and rather noble. But it’s not really about me.
I went into this existential mini-crisis – liberal arts majors do these things. Do I still have dreams? I had them in my 20s and early 30s. I wanted to go to graduate school and advance my career (check). I wanted to buy a house (check). I wanted to complete a sprint triathlon (check – four times!).
When Dreams Protected launched, it amplified that question for me – Do I have dreams? I’ve never been content to rest on my laurels, so what’s next?
With some introspection and the help of Google, I realized the answer is a resounding YES.
“Goals are dreams with deadlines,” is a quote widely repurposed and attributed to author Diana Scharf Hunt. I came across it many times when I did a Google search on “what’s the difference between dreams and goals.”
And when I read that, everything clicked. My mind raced like a set of falling Dominos. I realized everything I’m doing in the present, all the big and little goals – decisions and actions – are setting me up to reach my dreams.
Some of my dreams are silly and sporty. I want to sing the national anthem at Miller Park (before a game, not just standing by myself in the walkway). I want to attend a Wisconsin football game at every Big 10 stadium (six down, six to go). I want to visit every state park in Wisconsin (13 down, 46 to go).
Some of my dreams are long-term. I want to be young and healthy when I retire, so I can travel with my husband. So I make contributing to my 401K a priority, forgoing some immediate rewards with an eye on that long-term dream.
And even though I’m refocusing on dreams for myself, I do dream big for my children, focused on seeing them become happy, successful adults. So along the way, I talk to them about loving, healthy relationships. I teach them to cook. I praise their schoolwork. I talk to them about setting a budget and shopping during sales.
As we ring in a new year, I hope you’re thinking about your dreams, whether silly and small or big and audacious, and the goals you’ll set along the way to reach them.